As I am writing this article, it is almost 8pm over here in Kuala Lumpur on 21 December 2012, the last day of the Mayan calendar, and supposedly the day the world ends. The day is almost over for us here, and very likely it will end as normal as before. Have you been stocking [...]

In one of the personal transformation workshops that I conducted, one of the participants asked, “How do you forgive yourself?”Such a simple and straightforward question, yet the ramifications are immense. The question does not just say, “Teach me how to forgive myself” but also suggests that “I do not know how to forgive myself” or [...]

The world we live in today is in chaos. Greed and hatred are seen manifesting everywhere. People are living in fear, feeling a great sense of insecurity and frustration. Government and financial systems are falling apart. Nothing seems to be working. In a world where chaos seems to reign, is there any hope of finding [...]

We’ve all heard of stories of Mahatma Ghandi and non-violence, and Jesus advising us to turn the other cheek when struck, but how does that relate to us every day? I’ve struggled with that very question, especially having been an advocate for “eye for an eye” for many years. It made sense to me that [...]

Mary-Beth came to see me one evening complaining of backache which has been troubling her for several months. There was no injury or fall. The pain just seems to appear out of the blue. A physical examination did not reveal any physical signs. After a couple of attempts to treat her symptomatically, the pain remains. [...]

Being able to manage our emotion well is crucial to our health as well as our ability to foster healthy relationships with others, particularly our loved ones. Recent studies have revealed that the state of our emotional well-being plays an important role in our physical health. For instance, people who are depressed are at a [...]

Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved. When I first heard [...]

Imagine discovering a way to get rid of your fears in a quick and painless manner. In fact it can even become fun! Did you know only two of all the fears you have are innate: The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Most of your fears were learned in early childhood [...]

Many people live a life without love. They cannot love themselves, and therefore they cannot love anyone else. Some even feel that they do not deserve love. The sad fact is that without love, no matter what else you have in life, it’s not enough. We need to love ourselves unconditionally in order to live [...]

Nobody likes to feel fearful and because of that, most people will habitually react to fear by avoiding, repressing or suppressing it. It takes courage and wisdom to see that our fear can be our greatest teacher. When we examine our fear, we will often discover that it is irrational. There is no real basis [...]